One Week

One week down, one more to go!  In other (good) news, I found a replacement for my position - my boyfriend's bff, Robbie!  Last Saturday, at Sam & Z's cookout/bonfire/gathering/etc. Robbie's fiance, Christi, said that they are willing to move closer to Baltimore under the condition that Robbie gets a job in Baltimore.  I made that shit happen in less than a week.  I get to train him on Monday!

I have taken a position at a civil engineering firm in Columbia.  It is 27 minutes away from my house without traffic.  My commute is going to suck but I am getting over a 28% raise.  I think that is an awesome trade-off.

This weekend is a busy one for me.  Birthday festivities for Drew in the city tonight, and company picnic followed by a Nats game with James, Justin, and Matt tomorrow.

My Resignation

My resignation for my current employment is effective today.  There is a mixture of emotions I am feeling but the overall feeling is happiness.  In the past year, I have gone to a total of five interviews.  While that number does not seem high, I was also a full-time student at Johns Hopkins University and worked 30 hours a week.  I can't even tell you how many times I've submitted my resume - hundreds, thousands, etc. times a day!

Previously, I was filled with doubt.  I felt that I wasn't marketable and my experience were obsolete.  I have made a promise to myself that if I am ever in the position of acquiring talent (HR) for a company, I will dutifully send a follow up to those who did not get the position they had interviewed for and the reason(s) why.  I feel that is only fair to those prospects struggling for employment.  Granted, that is what career services are for but in my opinion, I don't find them helpful.  Case-in-point: Hopkins' career services advise me that my resume wasn't detailed enough but I needed to keep my information down to one page.  Um, what?!

Networking, recruiting companies, match.com, e-harmony, what's the difference?  I am not afraid to admit that my first impression is assertive, bossy, whatever.  I don't judge people by their first impression and with the millennials who are tech savvy, is it fair to judge interviewees by their first impressions?  There are many articles stating that narcissistic individuals are the ones who interview well.  In my honest opinion, I prefer someone's work to speak for them.  I much rather have a quiet, awkward, hard-working, team-player who is incredibly smart than have a sociable show-off who does mediocre work.  #Team Underdog FTW.  

Things and Whatnot.

It has been awhile since I've posted anything.  Life, what a busy activity.  Two weekends ago was a friend's birthday, last weekend I was in southern Maryland celebrating my little sister's, Catherina, 14th birthday, and today is one of closest friend's birthday.  While in soMD, my boyfriend and I got to watch Guardian of the Galaxy with his parents.  Such a great movie!  I cried twice during it but then again I cry over everything.  My boyfriend's parents had put their house up for sale and now it's under contract.  It sucks and I think they are making a terrible mistake but people learn from their experiences, right?

Besides the birthday celebrations and having to saying goodbye to the La Plata house, life has been trodding along.  I am currently upset with my boyfriend after our conversation this morning.  He expressed something to me that was hypocritical and naturally, I pointed out the inconsistency.  His response was nonchalant and just didn't seem to care.  That is what bothers me the most: he acted like he didn't care and didn't try to see it from my point of view.  I know that the biggest issue in most relationships is communication but I beg the differ, it's the other person not listening to their spouse or significant other.

After his response, it was my cue to walk away.  In the shower, I had prepared this speech that I would explain to him, how he was being hurtful and inconsiderate especially since his actions this past week contradicts his concerns but once I turned the water off, I decided against it.  I was upset and I still am.  Anything I say to him will be out of spite.  I am getting this general consensus from his close friends' girlfriends that there is this power struggle in the relationship and we, the girlfriends, don't feel appreciated.  

I can't speak for any of the other girlfriends but I don't ask for much - spend one evening where we go out to dinner and watch a movie or just do something I want to do.  My boyfriend isn't a bad person, he is a great boyfriend but only when he wants to be.  Most of the time he wants to play a p.c. game while watching a sporting event and wonders why I am influenced by his charms when he climbs into bed.  Next month, we will have been living together for three years and I really want to move into my own place alone.